Love these though provoking short posts… I read somewhere recently that it is not the decision that is the difficult part but the process of making it (or something like that). Basically, people worry about the outcome of their decisions, but mostly find that once a decision is made it is not as bad as they thought it was going to be!
@Chris – thanks for the feedback! Kind of puts decision making a little more into perspective, doesn’t it… Fortunately for me I haven’t had to make any life-changing majorly major ones recently!
This post definitely rings true for me. I just made a very difficult decision this week. Honestly, I’d been putting it off for *years*. Of course I knew what I had to do, but I finally bit the bullet.
I take some comfort in research that was discussed in the book “Goal Free Living.” In brief, it found that it really doesn’t matter what choice you make, as long as you are committed to it. The happiest people are the ones with the least regrets. The unhappiest are always wondering “What if I made the other choice?”
I have to agree with the quote. Many procrastinate because they already know the out come and ponder on ways to change it.
Over thinking something is a waste of time when the results is staring you in the face.
Hi Ross. I’ve been in this position many times. Trying to make a decision and moving back and forth between choices, takes a lot of energy. It’s even more difficult when the decision involves other people. I wonder how this affects the probable consequences of the decision that IS finally made.
Due Dilligence is done to support and justify a decision or vendor in corporations. I have been involved in two vendor selections this year that dragged on for months but I think the vendors were decided after the first meeting. I think all of this is done to ensure that everyone is commited to the decision that is being made as pointed out by Maria
Hi Ross, you’re right. I think it is not about the decision we made, but about the consequences of the decision, whether we dare to take the risks or not.
Thanks for sharing, Ross.
Hi Ross,
I have to concur with Arswino – it’s the consequences of those decisions that make it so difficult sometimes. And what holds us back from actually “making” the decision… Good food for thought here today…
I think that if we do connect with our true selves, we will immediately know the answer – it is there.
So it’s the consequences that are where the difficulty lies. And that confuses our inner connection – often to the extent that we generally don’t have access to it! So we are left with waying up consequences.
Hey guys, thanks a lot for taking the time to comment! It’s interesting to think about because decisions and decision making can take up so much of our time. Difficult decisions can also be quite stressful.
I know I’m definitely that way. Difficult decisions almost always involve something I don’t want to do but feel I should and I’m struggling with saying no–or rephrasing the idea until I can figure out a way to want to do it.
It strikes me as the only way this would be true in a very general way would be if ‘the decision’ is defined as ‘establishing what would be the most self-serving’.
To me, ‘the decision’ is defined as ‘the final choice of action’, which is not necessarily as clear. I might be struggling with a decision because I know what I would want to do if I could be completely self-serving and not have to deal with the consequences, but consequences are linked with every single action we make and so cannot be separated from ‘the decision’ the way they are here.
That said, I’ve met more than one person who complained that a decision was ‘hard’ to make when they only even entertained one choice and just wanted to delay or excuse themselves of the consequences.
That’s a powerful quotation. I never thought of it that way. Are we actually convincing ourselves that another route is okay? I can see that that. It’s a form of a defense mechanism.
What a great quotation.. but in my opinion, whatever you choose, the path will cross somwhere, sometime, in the future.. have you ever thought that life is like a flowchart? (not like a box of chocolate as Mr. Gump said)
Hey Ross,
Love these though provoking short posts… I read somewhere recently that it is not the decision that is the difficult part but the process of making it (or something like that). Basically, people worry about the outcome of their decisions, but mostly find that once a decision is made it is not as bad as they thought it was going to be!
Cheers,
Chris
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@Chris – thanks for the feedback! Kind of puts decision making a little more into perspective, doesn’t it… Fortunately for me I haven’t had to make any life-changing majorly major ones recently!
This post definitely rings true for me. I just made a very difficult decision this week. Honestly, I’d been putting it off for *years*. Of course I knew what I had to do, but I finally bit the bullet.
I take some comfort in research that was discussed in the book “Goal Free Living.” In brief, it found that it really doesn’t matter what choice you make, as long as you are committed to it. The happiest people are the ones with the least regrets. The unhappiest are always wondering “What if I made the other choice?”
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Hey Ross,
I have to agree with the quote. Many procrastinate because they already know the out come and ponder on ways to change it.
Over thinking something is a waste of time when the results is staring you in the face.
Cheers
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Thanks for the quote Ross. I have never thought of hard decision this way until you showed me the quote.
Cheers,
Vincent
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Hi Ross. I’ve been in this position many times. Trying to make a decision and moving back and forth between choices, takes a lot of energy. It’s even more difficult when the decision involves other people. I wonder how this affects the probable consequences of the decision that IS finally made.
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Due Dilligence is done to support and justify a decision or vendor in corporations. I have been involved in two vendor selections this year that dragged on for months but I think the vendors were decided after the first meeting. I think all of this is done to ensure that everyone is commited to the decision that is being made as pointed out by Maria
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Hi Ross, you’re right. I think it is not about the decision we made, but about the consequences of the decision, whether we dare to take the risks or not.
Thanks for sharing, Ross.
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Hi Ross,
I have to concur with Arswino – it’s the consequences of those decisions that make it so difficult sometimes. And what holds us back from actually “making” the decision… Good food for thought here today…
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Hi Ross
Interesting quote.
I think that if we do connect with our true selves, we will immediately know the answer – it is there.
So it’s the consequences that are where the difficulty lies. And that confuses our inner connection – often to the extent that we generally don’t have access to it! So we are left with waying up consequences.
Juliet
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Hey guys, thanks a lot for taking the time to comment! It’s interesting to think about because decisions and decision making can take up so much of our time. Difficult decisions can also be quite stressful.
I know I’m definitely that way. Difficult decisions almost always involve something I don’t want to do but feel I should and I’m struggling with saying no–or rephrasing the idea until I can figure out a way to want to do it.
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It strikes me as the only way this would be true in a very general way would be if ‘the decision’ is defined as ‘establishing what would be the most self-serving’.
To me, ‘the decision’ is defined as ‘the final choice of action’, which is not necessarily as clear. I might be struggling with a decision because I know what I would want to do if I could be completely self-serving and not have to deal with the consequences, but consequences are linked with every single action we make and so cannot be separated from ‘the decision’ the way they are here.
That said, I’ve met more than one person who complained that a decision was ‘hard’ to make when they only even entertained one choice and just wanted to delay or excuse themselves of the consequences.
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That’s a powerful quotation. I never thought of it that way. Are we actually convincing ourselves that another route is okay? I can see that that. It’s a form of a defense mechanism.
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realy nice one !!!
What a great quotation.. but in my opinion, whatever you choose, the path will cross somwhere, sometime, in the future.. have you ever thought that life is like a flowchart? (not like a box of chocolate as Mr. Gump said)
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